Matthew 6:19-24 (NASB)
Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for youselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or stea; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. The eye is the lamp of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light that is in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other You cannot serve God and wealth.
Hebrews 12:22-24 (NASB)
But you have come to Mount Zion and to the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to myriads of angels, to the general assembly and church of the firstborn who are enrolled in heaven, and to God, the Judge of all, and to the spirits of the righteous made perfect, and to Jesus, the mediator of a new covenant, and to the sprinkled blood, which speaks better than the blood of Abel.
“My God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory"
In our first lesson, we focused on the root word of relationship (“relate”) which means “to narrate.” The major point was “healthy relationships occur when people are willing listeners for each other’s story.” When I want others to focus on only “the narration of my story,” there’s a disconnection in relationship.
In this lesson, Rachelle and I will show you a principle that - when applied - will transform a relationship.
Jesus is our Creator, Source, Sustainer, our Everything. He meets every need you and I have in this life. We say Amen to this, so why do we live as if another person is our source and solution for what ails us? The most difficult journey in life is the 18 inches trip from the head to the heart; from thinking to feeling.
Rachelle and I have come up with an exercise that helps us in our relationships, and should help you too. When we find ourselves in relational pain or distress, we say fifteen words to ourselves and each other.
“You are neither the source nor the solution for the problem or pain within me.”
I first wrote these 15 Words on a website I operate called Istoria Ministries, and people reacted angrily.
We are so accustomed to blaming, shaming and gaming others we don’t like taking responsibility.
It’s difficult for someone in the dark to understand how these 15 Words actually heal relationships. But when you walk into a dark room you don't understand how electricity works, but that doesn't keep you from flipping the switch. One doesn’t have to understand how light works to enjoy its effects. So too, these words are a panacea for broken relationships. You may not understand how they work, but don't let it stop you from saying them. Most relationships spiral downward because one person points the finger at the other person. "You’re the problem!" "If you would only..." "You never..." "You...you...you."
In relationships built on covenant and commitment, this principle is absolutely essential.
Acquaintances and surface friendships are built on enjoyment. Real connection and relationship is built on love. If you ever want to know the difference between enjoyment and love, look at I Corinthians 13.
There's no doubt that the actions of the one you love can be hurtful or painful; but the Apostle Paul said, "I have learned to be content (i.e. "self-sufficient") in who I am" (Philippians 4:11). Many English translations wrongly translate Philippians 4:11 as "I have learned to be content in whatever state (or circumstances) I am", but the words "state" or "circumstances" are not in the original. Paul learned to be self-satisfied in who he was in Christ. The early Christians sang while being burned at the stake. Why? They had learned how to find self-satisfaction and contentment regardless of their circumstances.
Genesis 25:1-10 (KJV)
Then again Abraham took a wife, and her name was Keturah. And she bare him Zimran, and Jokshan, and Medan, and Midian, and Ishbak, and Shuah. And Jokshan begat Sheba, and Dedan. And the sons of Dedan were Asshurim, and Letushim, and Leummim. And the sons of Midian; Ephah, and Epher, and Hanoch, and Abidah, and Eldaah. All these were the children of Keturah. And Abraham gave all that he had unto Isaac. But unto the sons of the concubines, which Abraham had, Abraham gave gifts, and sent them away from Isaac his son, while he yet lived, eastward, unto the east country. And these are the days of the years of Abraham's life which he lived, an hundred threescore and fifteen years. Then Abraham gave up the ghost, and died in a good old age, an old man, and full of years; and was gathered to his people. And his sons Isaac and Ishmael buried him in the cave of Machpelah, in the field of Ephron the son of Zohar the Hittite, which is before Mamre; The field which Abraham purchased of the sons of Heth: there was Abraham buried, and Sarah his wife.